When you bring them home from the hospital, your days and nights are filled with feeding, diaper changing, soothing, and laundry. The cadence of it is exhausting, and the sheer relentlessness of it keeps you ‘in the moment,’ as it were. In fact, so much of parenting is ‘in the moment’ even those adult conversations about work, school, personal responsibility, finance, consequences, and even plans for the future are just theoretical. They are things you say and talk about because a growing person needs guidance.
But then, those moments ebb past – all of them – it creeps up on you. You make plans at every step, follow through, and keep the arrow pointed at launching a functional member of society. Then, one day, suddenly, as if you hadn’t been working toward it for 18+ years, you’re waiting for that last load of laundry to come out to finish the packing. It’s not theoretical anymore. It’s happening today, not tomorrow, not some as-yet-undetermined date, but today.
This part of the journey is over with our first kid. The start of a new journey begins as soon as that last load of laundry pops out of the dryer and makes its way into a suitcase.
It’s very hard, but I reckon it’s a good day for it. I’ve always regarded the fall time, or at least the turning of the leaves, as the start of a new year. I’ve never held with the January New Year thing. New years and new beginnings always happen in the fall, and this fall is a good one – As I write this, the sky is gray, the air is heavy with tepid rain and the trees are slowly molting in a light breeze. As far as fall goes, this is as typical as they come, but as a new year … it’s a big one.